Have anyone tried to self host the email receiving part while using some enterprise service (aws ses, sendgrid or something) to send emails without worrying about being flagged as spam? What’s your thoughts about this setup?
Yes I’m sending all my messages through SMTP2GO or Mailgun and never had any problems with emails going to the spam. Of course using a relay can be an issue when it comes to privacy, but I noticed that in my case I mainly receive emails with private information and only rarely send anything that could be used for tracking.
The compromise I’ve landed on is that I host my own DNS mx records, and point them to a paid enterprise mail provider.
This gets me the advantages of a paid provider while keeping my actual email address fully mine, to take wherever I want.
I did still have to learn a bunch of DNS rules in order to send all the correct “I’m not an evil spammer” headers and DNS records. But following a one page tutorial worked for me.
Edit: A disadvantage of my approach is that I’m still at the mercy of my email provider if I want to export my message history, and for the privacy of my message history.
That’s what I do nowadays with Protonmail