Figured I’d give Netbird a go, glad I did because I can self host extremely easily by using the new services feature.
You specify a subdomain, point to a peer, specify a protocol and port, and you are good. NetBird fetches you the certificate and your site goes live fast.
I can use my Immich with my mobile data now.
While I agree with You that there is always a compromise regarding privacy and participation. But you can always take steps to reduce that delta between reality and ideal by optimizing things.