

This is the most useful comment in the thread and it is the thing I am going to build next.
You are describing the actual failure of what I posted. Hammering an HTTP endpoint with concurrent clients barely moves these apps. Forgejo went 171 to 313 MB under 24 concurrent clients at 4144 req/s, and the Go single binaries moved almost nothing, Caddy 40 to 47, ntfy 27 to 36. That is because the request path is cheap. What costs memory is data, so repo count and size and the working set of the database.
So the harness needs to create state, not traffic. What I plan for Forgejo is to create N repos through the API, push real history into them, create users, then measure at several values of N so you get a curve rather than one number. A curve is also more honest because your answer depends on your N.
Since you would use this: what values are worth reporting? I was thinking 10, 100 and 500 repos. And is repo count the thing that hurts, or is it total repo size, or CI, or concurrent git operations? You and your colleagues run this for real and I do not, so I would rather measure what you would actually check than guess.
Agreed, and this cuts deeper than the sizing question.
Most of these are idle event loops waiting on a socket. The memory is mostly runtime and heap that was allocated and never returned, so on a box under pressure a lot of it is reclaimable or swappable and the RSS I am reporting overstates what is genuinely needed at rest. That is another reason the idle number is weak.
Socket activation is the real version of your point. If an app is genuinely request driven then its idle cost can be near zero and the number that matters is what it grows to on first request and whether it ever gives it back. I do not measure the giving-it-back part at all right now, which I should, because that is the difference between a stack that fits in 2 GB and one that slowly does not.
Adding a post-load settle measurement to the harness is cheap so I will do that. I already sample for 10 seconds after load stops and the peak does not come back down much, but I have not run it long enough to say anything solid.